we all are enforced retreat in current times.

 

Most of us are on a kind of enforced retreat, in present situation.

We wouldn’t have chosen this. We wouldn’t have desire this. But, we have been given time to think about what really matters and what is important to us, and who we’d like to be once this is all gets over. Because it has to end, eventually.

For me, the next few months are about kindness, connection, compassion, creativity, communication, collaboration and contribution. These are values that are quite important to me, these are the ones I want to use to guide me during this difficult time.

It made me think, something that is giving me the direction and purpose I lacked few weeks ago which I feel I would not, from this moment onwards.

We have to remember that although we don’t have the option to avoid the current crisis, we do have a choice in how we respond to it, in every moment.

What we are not what we were.

 If you wake up and forget who you used to be what will happen? (I am not talking about loss of memory.)

What I mean, is it a sign of growth and rejuvenation? Or you realise you lost a piece of yourself, now you remain as a shell of who you once were.

We often introduce ourselves to new friends and colleagues what we used to be at one point of time....! What we used to be ... indirectly define our life and our identity.

We tend to take support of 'what we used to be' even when we are not we were.

We need to realise that at point of time in our life our identity shifts. We have  undergone a change and our world views are different.Passions and hobbies that once seemed so important is no more seems important.

We change, and the environment around us changes. 

We have to honor the memories of our former life and face who we are now, and what that means.

What we used to be will always remain as a part of us, but it does not define us right now. 

Our 'now' is our identity and it defines us what we are and not what we were.

How you deal with paradox.

 Today's leaders are facing complex challenges and that is why the essential leadership competencies in complex global marketplace is to possess the ability to effectively deal with paradox. 

We always come across with leaders who tend to think in Black and white. They see the world in two dimensions: 'either/or.'

The world is too complex to get fitted in to two dimensions.

The either/or approach will never answer any question because they are in no way offer a black and white choices.

Instead, the either/or approach need to have a trade off to 'both/and' approach.

What it means, posing a question to ourselves, how we can perform both X and Z?

Few meaningful lines

 Recently came across with few meaningful lines, when I read them, I feel it relate to me in many ways.

I am sure many of LinkedIn member, if they stop by this post, would feel the same.

"Forever we remain oblivious to the future,

lost to the past and enduring our torture.

Forever we take chances to settle our scores,

losing some battles and winning some wars.

Forever praying loud hoping someone will hear,

forever crying softly but never shedding a tear.

Forever exists behind a disguise,

but the belief in forever keeps our hearts alive."

by Terri Nicole Tharrington

How to develop coaching philosophy.

 How you develop your coaching philosophy?

The development of your coaching philosophy should start with the core values you believe in. Your philosophy will reflect your moral standards and also your integrity towards them. 

As a coach, you would certainly show your best self to your clients, and hence, you must develop a deep understanding regarding why you have chosen coaching as your profession? You must ask some ‘why and what’ kind of questions to yourself.

What kind of coach I admire and I want to be?

Why I feel coaching is perfect fit for me?

Why client should choose me what they might feel I will help them to achieve?

What makes me feel constantly motivated towards coaching?

Why I feel I will be able to help my clients to achieve what they want to?

What will I achieve for myself through coaching?

Each coach must tell himself or herself stories that may enforce the commitments towards coaching and bring the effectiveness. 

By asking above questions you create a self-awareness, and self-awareness in coaching is vital in delivering effective service to your clients.

Drop all censoring if yourself.

 For at least half an hour in a day, may be not every day, at least twice in a week, give your mind a chance to express itself as what it is. 

Close yourself in a room, like a king, and accord a total freedom to your mind to zoom out. Just allow it speak - Whatever you want to think, to contemplate, let it happen.

Drop all the censoring of yourself that has prevented things from surfacing—drop all inhibition, restrictions and taboos. 

Give your mind the absolute freedom to allow whatever arises to arise; allow whatever appears to appear. 

Don't stop, hold back or suppress anything. You are on the verge of knowing what is inside. Don't be scared to come face to face!

The one who doesn't gather this courage is in trouble.

What is our identity and inner self

 Each of us is an amalgamation of multiple facets of our identity. Our involvement with a particular identity described its existence at any given moment.

A noticeable dimension of one’s identity is one’s daily occupation.

It is required to shedd off layers of identity that normally cover or hide our deepest inner self, and we have to necessarily eliminate the noise of life.

Which otherwise, if not done would justifies our inability to introspect which  we have long avoided. 

A direct encounter with our naked,  unwarnished self will be naturally exhilarating, confusing, liberating or turbulent.

There are set of people who may embrace the opportunity, while others deliberately look away and avoid to get in terms with it.